Watching Dr. Wayne Dyer lecture 2 weeks ago at a Hay House event was one of the highlights of my adult life. I loved hearing his calm and steady voice mix jokes in with prize words of wisdom. I loved feeling his kind, encouraging energy wishing all of us in the audience (all 2,000 of us) our best lives possible. And I especially loved how, when he began to talk about parts of his healing journey, he said "It's about to get weird." ...I always preface my hokey stories to friends by saying that :) Weird is so much better than "normal", in my humble opinion. Weird has taken me down some deliciously dynamic roads.
I've been hemming and hawing on how to present some of the material he lectured on; I want so badly to share all of the juicy goodness with my readers but I'm not sure any of my summarizations could do the in-person talk justice. So I've decided to keep it as simple as possible. By listing out some of the main lessons with a hint of my own interpretations and take aways, I hope you at least get a glimpse into what has made this man as successful as he is.
Shall we begin?
Lesson one: "Who you are is so much more than what you've been raised and conditioned to believe."
No more living "small", OK? You are doing the world a disservice by stifling all of the creativity, power and joy that dwells within you. "I Can't" is almost always a case of "I am unwilling to try". Give it a try.
Lesson two: "So much of life should be about helping others based on what you've been through. Take away judgment. Criticism. Condemnation. And you're left with something else...a different kind of love...a new kind of love..Divine Love."
Over the past few years I've deeply learned how much better my relationships (even the fleeting everyday encounters) become once I strip away judgment and criticism; when I reach out to help someone using the tools I've gained through my own trials and tribulations. Cheryl Richardson said it best at the lecture: Life is always sending you messages. When you don't listen, it will send you a lesson. And when you don't learn, it will send you a problem. What better way could there be to solidify your lessons learned than to help others out of their own struggles using your experiences? I've said it before and I'll say it again--people are complicated. The sooner we learn to forgive and move forward...the sooner we shift our perspective to accept the equal light in all beings...the more we then open the path for love of all shapes and sizes to come swooping in to fill us up. This is the primary reason why I have begun my path of becoming a Health and Wellness/Life coach--I want to allow what I've been through (the good, the bad and the out of this world awesome) to be a catalyst for helping others. I want to experience Divine Love.
Lesson three: "We are infinite spiritual beings having a temporary human experience."
Wayne talked about how we put so much worry into our physical bodies, when we should really be focusing that energy on how glorious our spiritual beings are. Our physical bodies are constantly changing. Who you were yesterday is not who you are today; your cells have altered and you are constantly becoming new (though I guess we could call it "old", too ;). The more energy we put into getting our hearts and our souls on a loving path, the greater the use of our time in these bodies will be. Of course you should send your body love. Nourish it as a temple with healthy foods and exercise. Give thanks for your body allowing you to experience life on earth. But treat your mental health...your spirit...to the same loving care. Our temporary human experiences are no match for our infinite spiritual beings. Seize that power within you.
Lesson four: Everything is either fear or love. Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real. Or as Wayne likes to say; F*ck Everything And Run!
Fear can be a great motivator, there's no doubt about that. It's also a fairly primal response. But more often than not fear prevents us from speaking our truths, from listening to our inner guides and from boldly heading into our beautiful futures. Pardon my language, but I say f*ck your fears.
Lesson five: It's essential to live with a mind that is opening to everything, but attached to nothing.
This one really hit home for me. Deepak Chopra says it another way in that attachment is fear based on our egos (grrr, egos! hush it up!) while non-attachment is love based on our spirits. When we live in a space of loving non-attachment, we live in the easiest, most forgiving, free-flowing, natural state.
Lesson Six: All possibilities. All at once.
They are waiting for you. What you want, wants you back. Fiercely.
Happy Tuesday :)