As a bit of Friday Food For Thought I wanted to share a snip-it of the chapter with you. So far this book is amazing; simply and beautifully written, this practical and entirely un-preachy guide is deeply resonating with me. I'm only on chapter 3 and already have had about 17 Oprah "A Ha!" moments and 28 SMH (shakin ma head) reactions combined with classic public mumbles of "ugh, that is SO true!" (lady on the bus, sorry for startling you with my last UGH!).
On forgiveness Piero Ferrucci writes;
"We do not even need to see forgiveness as the absence of resentment--an emotionally neutral void. Nor as the release of tension, like relaxing a muscle after tensing it for some time. Rather, forgiveness is a positive quality. It contains joy and faith in others, generosity of spirit. Illogical and surprising, sometimes sublime, it frees us from the ancient chains of resentment. Whoever forgives, feels uplifted...
...Do we need to explain why the capacity to forgive is inherent in kindness? Maybe it is obvious, but let us say it anyway. We cannot be kind while we carry the weight of our resentments. Nor while we remain too rigid to ask for forgiveness. Nor if our emotions are colored by guilt or vindictiveness.
We can be kind only if the past no longer dominates us."
Do you think it's OK just to bring this chapter into my next session with T and say "This. This is what I'm striving for"?
Sending you all good thoughts for wonderful weekends!